Consider for a moment the benefit to you of releasing the frustration, or not being set back by this behaviour?
The words we're using can often help us understand what's going on in our mind. Whether logical or metaphorical, they explain how we're relating to any given situation. Which means if we're unsure what to do in a situation, the answer might be found in the words we're using - or in this case the metaphor we're using.
For example if you're describing someone, or even yourself, as a 'stick in the mud' then why are you using that description if not because it makes sense at some level.
If it makes sense to describe the situation in this way my hypothesis is, you'll also find the solution there too, for example:
- If you're stuck in a rut the answer is in the rut
- If you can't see the wood for the trees the solution can be found in the trees
- If you're struggling to keep your head above water the water is the key
- And the circle may provide the clue when you're going around in circles
Bring to mind the metaphorical stick in the mud that you're imagining when you use those words:
- How long is the stick?
Please don't be surprised if you do have an answer - your mind is a meaning making machine, and as such if you're using the words will have a picture of some sorts that accompanies the words.
Let's explore the image a little more:
- How wide is the stick?
- What's it sticking in?
- How gloopy is the mud?
- and so on.
Once you've done that consider the options for that stick. The options might include:
- Staying where it is
- Being picked up and moved somewhere else
- Waiting for the mud to dry out
- Floating away if it rains
- What happens if it gets icy? or snows? or the wind blows it?
- Stopping it coming away from the tree in the first place
- And so on - just keep thinking of ways to move the stick so it's no longer stuck in the mud.
It is a short stick in the mud
Or perhaps a little longer
or even longer
Or very tall (as sticks go)
Perhaps its about remembering where the stick came from, and finding a way of returning it to its home?
Did any of these images resonate - and in which case how could the stick no longer be stuck in the mud?
Reflect on the original situation - how might these metaphorical solutions and images provide an answer?
Notice what you notice - in what way does the situation look or feel different? What insight might you have had on what action to take in the current situation?
Other posts that may also relate to the content covered here, even if they're using different sayings, are getting out of your comfort zone, bringing it in out of the cold, and treading on thin ice,
I'd love to hear how you got on.
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