Perhaps not this type of circle
More like a circle or cycle of inevitability - that just keeps going around and around without end - just like the earth circles the sun, or moon circles the earth etc.
A circle that has a certain amount of stress attached to it, and an accompanying inability to know what to do.
The circle/cycle might be related to too much work, no sense of direction, repeated unhelpful outcomes, being at the receiving end of the same unwanted behaviours, or even stuck in a rut of 'this' always means 'that'. (Although if you resonate with being stuck in a rut in the current situation rather than going around in circles you may find that post helpful too.)
When faced with this statement, beyond exploring the end goal of what we'd like to be doing instead of circling, we have a number of options about where to focus our attention to find a solution. The main two are:
- Discuss how we got here, and how it feels, and get drawn into all the whys, and wherefores, and reasons and excuses of how we've ended up where we are, and why we're stuck and can't do anything about it, and in so doing often put up barriers to seeing the situation from a different perspective (ie Stick with our left, more logical, side of brain in the hope of finding a solution)
Sorry if that's a little strong - but you get my meaning - we use logic to justify why are right to be stuck, and there's nothing, or very little, we can do about it.
- Explore the metaphor contained within our language and allow our non conscious mind, and more creative right side of our brain, to help us find a solution. Doing this keeps the barriers down, and enables us to view the situation from numerous perspectives, each with the potential to provide resolution.
Exploring the metaphor in this instance would mean exploring 'going around in circles'.
Bear with me on this, I know it sounds a little weird.
The hypothesis is - if you can describe the situation as going around in circles, then your mind understands why, and will also be able to describe the size, shape and speed of the circle! Otherwise why would you be using that saying, rather than another saying such as for example juggling ball or spinning plates?
If you can describe the circle, then I would suggest, you can also develop strategies for not going around in the circle, and can then apply these strategies to your real life situation you're current stuck in.
Which means when one client mentioned a vicious circle I asked them to draw the circle in the sand, and to then explore how to stop it:
The solution in this case involved making the circle an infinity sign, with a sense of yin and yang - nothing staying around for any time, no right, no wrong, just what is, and allowing more of a flow to life rather than a frantic circling.
This does not need to make sense to you. It's why metaphors are so personal and why they work - it just has to make sense to the person wanting a solution, and provide their mind with some options of how to experience the current situation differently.
Once the mind has seen and experienced these different perspectives, its as if the box of solutions has been unlocked.
Other examples can be found here on my Facebook live in the snow!! and a post I wrote a few years ago where circles became squares, and that made all the difference (Going around in circles).
There's no right or wrong - just tangents your mind takes you in the hope of finding a different perspective to view the current situation from.
If you were previously feeling like you were going around in circles you may already notice solutions have appeared? Or perhaps you need to try drawing your circle to understand more about it.
Or any of the following images may help shift your current thinking from stuck to back on track, and headed towards your goals rather than going around and around.
If you've been going around in circles in an area of your life what will you do to stop and take action to go in a different direction, and when will you take that step?
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